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- Informed Choice, July 2017
Frederick Walter Bessette (Picture included)
November 16, 1949 ? July 13, 2017
Frederick Walter Bessette found eternal peace on Thursday afternoon, July 13, 2017 at the Aurora Zilber Family Hospice near Milwaukee, Wisconsin. He was born in St. Albans, VT on November 16, 1949.
Preceded in death by his son Charlie, his mother and father, Reba and Francis Bessette; older brother Edward Bessette and older sister, Charlene (Bessette) Matthews, he leaves behind his loving wife, Judi (Comer) Bessette, older sister Brenda (Bessette) Thibault; older brother, Bill Bessette, younger brother Tom Bessette and younger sister, Lisa (Bessette) minor.
Fred will be dearly missed by Judi?s only sister, Patti, and her husband Gary Boles, as well as many nieces and nephews (and some grand and great grand ones too) on both sides of the family all across the country. Fred had a special relationship with Joe Comer and Mary Miller, Judi?s dad and grandmother, both of whom have been gone for many years.
Fred grew up on a dairy farm in Vermont. Living in the shadow of Mount Mansfield, when asked about the skiing there, Fred always replied that his experience with snow in Vermont was ?shoveling it.? He received his Bachelor?s Degree from Michigan State (Go Spartans) and his Juris Doctor from the University of Chicago (the University as he referred to it.). His only other job, before starting in the Law Department at Northwestern Mutual, was milking cows and ?farmin? it.?
Fred spend over 38 years at Northwestern, retiring in 2012 as Vice President and Investment Counsel. He made many good friends there, both in the home office and in the real estate field offices and with other investors with whom the company did business. He was known by his colleagues and friends for both his diplomacy and his sense of humor. That he made a host of good friends is not a surprise given that he never met a stranger.
While Fred loved his work, he also found time to better the community through volunteer work at the Milwaukee Mental Health Association and the First Unitarian Society of Milwaukee. He also served on the Board of Directors for the Charlie Bessette Scholarship Fund at New Vision Wilderness. He was a strong supporter of the performing arts, becoming an avid opera fan.
After Fred retired, he often traveled with his wife to conferences as well as to schools and programs across the country that she visited in her work as a therapeutic educational consultant. He was intrigued by this work, having seen its benefits first hand through his son. True to form, he also made many friends in these travels.
Fred also loved his family and treasured his role as ?provider?. Adopting Charlie when he was just a month old, he was a great dad to his son. He was also a faithful caretaker of his son?s various critters, from salamanders to snakes to bearded dragons, almost anything that ate live crickets. He will be sorely missed by grand-dog Snoop. Until quite recently, Fred walked him every day.
He will be most certainly missed by Judi, with whom he just celebrated 41 years of marriage. Often saying that life with her was never boring, he spent the past 22 months since learning he had mesothelioma, making sure she was ?settled?, always the provider.
Fred enjoyed many things in life, but the bit three were games, gambling and gardening. He learned to count from a deck of cars. ?Pitch? was a Bessette family pastime. Growing up, his parents played with other farm couples, with the big winner coming home with a chicken, live of course. Cribbage, euchre, solitaire, he actually met Judi in college over a bridge table. Accomplished at bridge, he liked to say he need to another ?dummy? to learn the game along with his roommate?s girlfriend, also novice at bridge. Rummikub, Dominoes (especially Mexican Train) even Pictionary, he played them all. So, taking games seriously, it?s easy to understand the lure of Las Vegas, Monte Carlo and even Potawatomi. But as in all things, his gambling was measured. He never lost more than he felt he could and always tried to leave the table a winner, even if his winnings were a mere dollar.
So, that leaves gardening of the big three. He was as passionate about developing a prairie as he was about more formal garden areas. And what was summer without homegrown tomatoes! One year, he even grew Brussels sprouts. Typically the rabbits got the carrots and radishes, but he planted them each year, none-the-less.
Fred made people promise not to say something like ?he lost a courageous battle with cancer? but please know he faced the inevitable in the same way he approached life, with grace and dignity. He was an organized, strategic thinker, at home, at work, at the card table and even at the end of his life.
Know too, his sense of humor was intact. Shortly after being diagnosed, he read that in the United Kingdom, Eric Idle?s ?Always Look on the Bright Side of Life? from the Monty Python fil, The Life of Brian, had become (and still is) the most popular song to be played at funerals, beating out Frank Sinatra?s ?My Way? and Celine Dion?s ?My Heart Will Go ON.? His favorite song in the last several weeks was Albert King singing, everybody want to go to heaven but nobody want so die.
A Celebration and Remembrance will be held at 2:30 PM on Saturday, October 21, 2017 at Davians in Menomonee Falls. The address if N56 W 16300 Silver Spring Drive.
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Bassett Family Association Database
1949 - 2017 (67 years)